Experts divide coping into two broad categories 1. problem solving and 2. emotional coping
We are taught in our society to solve problems. So often, when we have an increased demand, say at home or work, we work harder at resolving the issue or getting things done. However, we often do that at the peril of second type of coping, emotional coping. We stop doing things that recharge us emotionally, things like eat leisurely and properly, recreate , take time with friends, or even sleep.
All is not lost; we can use these problem solving skills and our thinking brain to our advantage. I mentioned earlier, that we all appraise our threats, this is actually done a two levels. An initial appraisal, which is automatic. Think of the startle response, our subconscious is always on the look out and fires an immediate response when we sense something. For example, like the visceral response you have – to a certain pitch in a particular person’s voice, when you really haven’t heard what they said yet. But you still tense up. Then there is the second appraisal. This happens after you think about it. Self -Hypnosis and Mindful meditation skills learned in out Mind Body Mastery Skills Group help with the f initial response by training the unconscious mind, while Cognitive therapy helps with the reappraisal process and breaking old thinking habits or traps.
Every demand takes emotional energy; this must be replenished. Emotional coping includes: taking breathing spaces, meditation, spending time with our friends, exercise, yoga, eating well, resting properly, and other spiritual practices.